I can really see how normalized emotional abused based on how people are so quick to shut down discussions of it and write it off as women being stupid. Like manipulating someone into doubting their memories is abusive. Guilting people into sex is abusive. Tearing down your partner’s self esteem is abusive. Exploiting your partner’s mental illness and low self esteem so you can treat them like shit is abusive. That’s all abusive behavior and it’s nobody’s fault but the abusers. So like you won’t call a spade a spade because then you’d have to admit that you’re a fucking abuser and solely responsible for how you treat people